Once you forgive yourself, the self-reflection can be over.
Self-acceptance begins, and the self-love will grow so strong that you will finally accept yourself just the way you are.
That's the beginning of peace and freedom.
Forgiveness is the key
Self-punishment is the single biggest impediment holding you back from living an empowered life if it is not attended to with kindness and self-compassion.
It may be a learned response from parents or loved ones when you were a child.
The critical parent can sometimes be disparaging in their words while not realising the gravity that such words have on the subconscious programming of the child.
Being emotionally resilient allows a person to withstand the forces of life. Yet, this is not how it is supposed to be. Emotionally resilience does not call for self-punishment in order to become emotionally stronger.
In fact, as you know, it has the opposite effect.
One of the aspects we can discover in self-reflection is jwhat we needed to reinforce our good behaviour.
Reassurance from parent is sought in order to appeal to their good nature.
In effect, we were consolation and caring , to be nurtured enough to develop a healthy self-esteem.
Emotional resiliency is borne out of a prominent self-worth.
We all crave to be nurtured in a loving and kind manner, no matter how old we are.
It is important to forgive yourself as a means to rewrite the past and invite love and compassionate energy towards oneself. If you are to be realistic, this may pose more challenges than you anticipate, given that you are attempting to rewrite a strong and powerful inner script that has been given power all these years.
As you attend to your shame and guilt, you become less critical of yourself and slowly turn down the volume on the self-punishing inner critic. The answer lies in transforming the self-punishing inner talk, rather than obliterate it completely.
The transformation process seeks to understand that you create a false sense of self by feeding this false-self power over you , yet this is not who you really are.
Transforming self-punishment becomes an act of forgiveness and self-compassion by creating a new inner dialogue, which naturally unfolds over time.
You must come to terms with feeling the pain within the context of a secure and nurturing setting if you are to move forward and transform the self-punishment into positive energy.
As you develop a nurturing inner self, this feeling naturally polarises over time to create a new lens in which to view your past wounds.
Therefore, you realise that you are capable of managing real-life problems by your capacity to develop a stronger emotional resilience, which is not vested in self-deprecating inner talk.
Nothing come from nothin nothing ever could - somewhere in your youth and childhood you must have done something good .❤️
Love Elizabeth x